WHY IS IT A GREAT CHALLENGE FOR GOD-FEARING AND EDUCATED PEOPLE TO FIND THE RIGHT LIFE PARTNER?
The process of finding a life partner has many challenges, especially for those who want to marry or be married and not just picking up or being picked up. There are many men and women in the world but the right husband or wife is only one. Adam was given a wife comparable to him, so let's not neglect to have compatible behavior if we want a happy marriage. Remember that your wife or husband will not live with God but will live with you. Therefore, the criteria should not only be spiritual but should consider all areas of life. A person can be a good pastor, a good singer or a good leader of an institution and not be a good husband or a good wife. The institution of marriage is very big, so the criteria should be observed instead of only considering the external appearance.
A life partner of your choice who complements you is not found anywhere. After closing your eyes when you pray, open your eyes when you select under the guidance of God. Your destiny does not depend on God's choice since He has given you free will. He wants you to choose the kind of life you want and be prepared for the consequences of your choice. If you make a mistake in choosing a life partner, you will not only destroy your destiny and the future of your life but also that of your generation. Deut 30:19 "I make heaven and earth bear witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; then choose life, so that you and your offspring will live." I think you have witnessed how people are suffering today due to their parents' bad decisions of not sending them to school or not preparing for their future.
Don't be forced to marry someone you don’t love, even if it is religious reason. A spiritual leader should not prevent you marrying the right person on the pretext that your ministry is so much needed in the church or that you are a good giver (donor). It means that if you marry a man from another church, the income of your church will decrease. Your personal choice and God's plan for your life should not be ignored. DO NOT ACCEPT BEING THE CAPITAL OF PEOPLE'S PROJECTS. You will regret it later. I married a wife who was very reliable in the church as a Gospel singer and church secretary. But the church did not mix her personal needs with church interests. The pastor released her peacefully regardless of our denominational differences.
But even Isaac and Rebekah, whom we often quote when we teach dating and marriage, did not know each other closely, but systems were used to ensure that they were convinced that it was God's plan to become a couple. It's not smart to meet online, at work or on the bus and then plan to get married without any effort to get to know the next of kin. Marriage unites families and not just a couple. You must be released with the blessing of your parents or family. By doing so you will find out if there is any fraud. This is a very important and necessary thing before the marriage is concluded in the church. Genesis 2:24 "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh." I married a wife who lived more than two thousand kilometers away from where I live, but I still made sure I know her parents, her siblings and the church she worships. You should be very careful with someone who only commends you but does not ask where you are coming from, who your relatives are and does not seek to get to know them.
Many young people ask me various questions online. However, I advise them to visit my blog and read the articles I wrote about RELATIONSHIPS, then they will ask only questions that are not answered yet. The articles are collected in a library-like arrangement. Write to me on Whatsapp if you don't know the link of my blog. In the blog you will also be able to download my LAWI MSHANA App so that it is easy to access articles and videos anytime.
In the RELATIONS label you will find the
following articles (Many articles are in Kiswahili, so you can click TRANSLATE
and select your language, although it may not be very accurate translation):
1. I am tired of staying single and the
time is running out. What should I do? (It is already in English)
2. Why today’s marriages lack joy and peace?
(It is already in English)
3. As a widow, Can I find a husband like
the one I had before?
4. I’m single and I can't overcome lust.
What should I do?
5. Why do I dream of getting married to
my ex? How can I overcome these dreams?
6. Why is it difficult to find the right
husband/wife (article number 1-3)
7. I am a widow with children. If I get
married, what will happen to my children?
8. How to overcome the spirit preventing
marriages and caution for women who go to be prayed for by spiritual ministers.
9. Why do God's people fall into fornication? Do you know its effects?
This is your time to meet the one whom God has prepared for you. The one who will fill the gap you have and will see your importance (who you will need each other).
Lawi Mshana - mshanalawi@gmail.com
