Does God Care About the Life of a Young Person? No. 5 (Je, Mungu anajali maisha ya kijana Na 5?)
Session Five: Why Is It So Difficult to Find the Right Wife or Husband Today?
3. Not knowing what kind of group your spouse should come from
Verses 3,4 “And I will make you swear by the Lord, the God of heaven and the God of the earth, that you will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell. But you shall go to my country and to my kindred, and take a wife for my son Isaac.”
A young man should consider a specific group that will make him secure in his marriage.
God blessed Abraham in the land of the Canaanites, but he remembered God’s covenant that he came to Canaan for blessings and not to marry the Canaanites. Consider God’s covenant with His people in marriage. Ezra 9:12 “Therefore do not give your daughters to their sons, nor take their daughters for your sons, nor seek their peace or prosperity forever; that you may be strong, and eat the good of the land, and leave it as an inheritance for your children forever.”
There are general criteria and personal criteria. The criteria to be observed by every true believer are that he must marry or be married to a true believer. However, a young man needs to be careful because there are fake believers in churches with true foundations of salvation. Do not comfort yourself that you will pray for him or her to be saved after you enter into marriage. No marriage can change a person's character. 2 Corinthians 6:14 “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers; for what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what fellowship has light with darkness?”
An unbeliever can teach you intellectual lessons, such as art. But don't let him teach you spiritual lessons that go into your heart. Proverbs 4:23 “Guard your heart with all your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” God does not interfere with our decisions, but we should be prepared for the consequences. Deuteronomy 30:19 “I call heaven and earth to witness against you today that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses; therefore choose life, that you and your descendants may live.” If you make a wrong choice, don't blame God. It is not God who got married, but you. Admit your mistakes and ask God to intervene.
4. Failure to Manage Visions
Verses 5-9 “The servant said to him, “Perhaps the woman will not be willing to follow me to this land. Shall I then take your son back to the land from which you came?” Abraham said to him, “Be careful not to take my son back there. The Lord, the God of heaven, who took me from my father’s house and spoke to me in the land of my birth, swore to me, saying, ‘To your descendants I will give this land.’ He will send his angel before you, and you shall take a wife for my son from there. But if the woman is not willing to follow you, then you shall be free from this oath of mine; only do not take my son back there.” The servant put his hand under the thigh of his master, Abraham, and swore to him on this matter.”
Abraham made it clear where he wanted Isaac to marry, but he also made it clear that she must be willing to come to Canaan, where their blessings are. He told his servant in simple terms that if she refused to follow you, it was not God’s choice for my son.
Don't let love blind you to the basics. Don't be fooled into thinking that your differences will be easily resolved. If you have major religious or denominational differences, they can create a huge rift between you and your children. Religious beliefs often have deep roots in a person's heart.
Je, Mungu anajali maisha ya kijana? Na 5
Kipindi cha tano: Kwa nini inakuwa vigumu leo kupata mwenzi sahihi
3. Kutojua mwenzi wako anatakiwa kutoka kwenye kundi la aina gani
Mst 3,4 “nami nitakuapisha kwa Bwana, Mungu wa mbingu, na Mungu wa nchi, kwamba hutamtwalia mwanangu mke katika binti za Wakanaani ambao nakaa kati yao. bali enenda hata nchi yangu, na kwa jamaa zangu, ukamtwalie mwanangu Isaka mke.”
Kijana anatakiwa kuzingatia kundi maalum ambalo litamfanya awe salama katika ndoa yake.
Mungu alimbariki Ibrahimu katika nchi ya Wakanani lakini alikumbuka agano la Mungu kwamba alikuja Kanani kuinuliwa kiuchumi na sio kuoana na Wakanaani. Zingatia agano la Mungu na watu wake katika kuoa na kuolewa. Ezra 9:12 “Basi, msiwape wana wao binti zenu, wala msitwae binti zao kuwa wake za wana wenu, wala msiwatakie amani wala kufanikiwa milele; ili mpate kuwa hodari, na kula wema wa nchi hiyo, na kuwaachia watoto wenu iwe urithi wa milele.”
Vipo vigezo vya jumla na vigezo binafsi. Vigezo vya kuzingatiwa na kila muumini wa kweli ni lazima aoe au aolewe na muumini wa kweli. Hata hivyo kijana anatakiwa kuwa makini kwa vile kuna waumini feki ndani ya makanisa yenye misingi ya kweli ya wokovu. Usijifariji kwamba utamuombea aokoke mkishaingia kwenye ndoa. Hakuna ndoa inayoweza kubadilisha tabia ya mtu. 2 Wakorintho 6:14 “Msifungiwe nira pamoja na wasioamini, kwa jinsi isivyo sawasawa; kwa maana pana urafiki gani kati ya haki na uasi? Tena pana shirika gani kati ya nuru na giza?”
Mtu asiyeamini anaweza kukufundisha masomo ya kiakili kama vile ufundi. Lakini usimruhusu akufundishe masomo ya kiroho yanayoingia katika moyo wako. Mithali 4:23 “Linda moyo wako kuliko yote uyalindayo; Maana ndiko zitokako chemchemi za uzima.” Mungu haingilii maamuzi yetu lakini tuwe tayari kwa matokeo (consequence). Kum 30:19 “Nazishuhudiza mbingu na nchi juu yenu hivi leo, kuwa nimekuwekea mbele yako uzima na mauti, baraka na laana; basi chagua uzima, ili uwe hai, wewe na uzao wako.” Ukikosea kuchagua usihamishie lawama kwa Mungu. Sio Mungu aliyeoa bali ni wewe. Kubali makosa yako na kumuomba Mungu aingilie kati.
4. Kushindwa kusimamia maono
Mst 5-9 “Yule mtumishi akamwambia, Labda yule mwanamke hatakubali kufuatana nami mpaka nchi hii, je! Nimrudishe mwanao mpaka nchi ulikotoka? Ibrahimu akamwambia, Ujihadhari, usimrudishe mwanangu huko. Bwana, Mungu wa mbingu, aliyenitoa katika nyumba ya babangu, na kusema nami katika nchi niliyozaliwa, aliniapia akisema, Nitawapa uzao wako nchi hii; yeye atampeleka malaika wake mbele yako, nawe utamtwalia mwanangu mke tokea huko; na yule mwanamke asipokubali kufuatana nawe, basi, utafunguliwa kiapo changu hiki; lakini usimrudishe mwanangu huko. Yule mtumishi akaweka mkono wake chini ya paja la Ibrahimu bwana wake, akamwapia katika neno hilo.”
Ibrahimu aliweka wazi kwamba anataka Isaka aoe mtu kutokea wapi lakini pia aliweka masharti kwamba lazima awe tayari kuja Kanaani ambapo baraka zao zipo. Kwa lugha nyepesi alimwambia mtumishi wake kwamba akikataa kufuatana na wewe sio chaguo la Mungu kwa ajili ya mwanangu.
Kumpenda mtu kusikupofushe macho ukapuuzia mambo ya msingi. Usidanganywe kwamba tofauti zenu zitaisha kirahisi sana. Kama mna tofauti kubwa za kidini au kimadhehebu zinaweza kuleta ufa mkubwa sana kwenu wenyewe na kwa watoto wenu. Misimamo ya kidini mara nyingi ina mizizi ya ndani sana katika moyo wa mtu.
Dr. Lawi Mshana, Facilitator and Mentor, Tanzania
Changia huduma hii: Togopesa 0712924234 au Mpesa 0754653217
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