Swali: Mungu anajali maisha ya kijana? Na. 1 (Does God care about the life of a young person? No. 1)
Response No. 1:God cared about Adam’s loneliness (Mungu alijali upweke wa Adamu)
(Gen 2:18 “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”)
Things to consider
1. The Lord prepared Adam and his environment before dealing with his loneliness. He gave him a job first – a garden to tend. Note that a work is not necessarily employment.
2. It was not Adam who said it was not good for me to be alone – it was God who said it. Distinguish loneliness from the desires of the flesh – We do not marry or get married because of desires – if that were the case, we would marry as soon as we reach puberty.
3. A young man needs God to provide his partner (not just picking randomly) – I will make him a helper.
4. A young man needs a wife or husband to complete him and not to live with or plan with him (complement – a helper fit for him.
5. A young man should not seek a wife to serve him but should assume the responsibilities of a husband (so that the wife can find something to help). A young woman should not lose her role as a helper even if she has a high position. That is God-ordained order.
6. A young man must prepare himself to be economically independent before marriage – he will leave his father and mother and join his wife.
7. Marriage is not for a boy and a girl but for a man and a woman - mature people. (1 Corinthians 7:36 But if any man see that he is behaving unbecomingly toward his virgin, and if she is past the beauty of her youth, and if there is need, let him do what he will, he does not sin; let him let them marry.)
Jibu Na. 1: Mungu alijali upweke wa Adamu
Mwa 2:18 “Bwana Mungu akasema, Si vema huyo mtu awe peke yake, nitamfanyia msaidizi wa kufanana naye.”.
Mambo ya msingi kuzingatia:
1. Bwana alimuandaa Adamu na mazingira yake kabla ya kushughulikia upweke wake. Alimpa kwanza kazi – bustani aitunze – kumbuka kazi sio lazima iwe ajira.
2. Sio Adamu aliyesema si vema niwe peke yangu – Mungu ndiye aliyesema. Tofautisha upweke na tamaa za mwili – Hatuoi wala kuolewa kwa sababu ya tamaa – kama ni hivyo tungeoa mara tu tunapobalehe.
3. Kijana anahitaji Mungu amuandalie mwenzi wake (asiokote) – Nitamfanyia (I will make him a helper)
4. Kijana anahitaji mke au mume wa kumkamilisha na sio wa kuishi naye au kupanga naye (complement) – msaidizi wa kufanana naye.
5. Kijana wa kiume asitafute mwenzi wa kumtumikisha bali abebe majukumu ya mume (mke apate kitu cha kusaidia). Msichana naye asipoteze jukumu lake la kuwa msaidizi hata kama ana cheo kikubwa.
6. Lazima kijana ajiandae kujitegemea kabla ya ndoa – atamwacha baba yake na mama yake na kuambatana na mke wake
7. Ndoa sio kwa ajili ya mvulana na msichana bali mume na mke.
1 Wakorintho 7:36 “Lakini mtu awaye yote akiona ya kuwa hamtendei mwanamwali wake vipendezavyo, na ikiwa huyo amepita uzuri wa ujana wake, na ikiwapo haja, basi, afanye apendavyo, hatendi dhambi, na awaruhusu waoane.”
Dr Lawi Mshana, Facilitator & Mentor, +255712924234, Tanzania
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