HOW TO OVERCOME LONELINESS BEFORE MARRIAGE (JINSI YA KUSHINDA UPWEKE KABLA YA NDOA)

 

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HOW TO OVERCOME LONELINESS BEFORE MARRIAGE

(JINSI YA KUSHINDA UPWEKE KABLA YA NDOA)

1. Realize that God is more sensitive to that need than you are

Adam did not see his loneliness. God said that he was not happy to see Adam alone. So he promised to make a woman to complete him. You have no reason to blame yourself or anyone else. Stop thinking about the flesh, but focus on God. Rom 13:14 “But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not make provision for the flesh, to fulfil its lusts”.

2. Recognize God’s purpose for this time.

The apostle Paul said people should remain single or unmarried. This means that God has a purpose in living alone. You can accomplish some activities when you are single and others when married.

3. Distinguish between sexual desire and lust

The desire of the flesh is natural. This can be satisfied within marriage. Lust is an evil spirit that torments a person. A person with lust cannot settle in their marriage, so they need a deliverance ministry. 

4. Surround yourself with the right friends

Don't spend too much time with people who spend a lot of their time talking about sex. Avoid people who don't believe that one can enjoy life alone. Remember, many got married and are now widowed.

5. Avoid risky situations

If you hug someone of the opposite sex, your body will burn with desire. Proverbs 6:27 “Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?” Avoid extreme jokes when you are with people of the opposite sex. Set boundaries in relationships. Also, avoid looking at pictures of people who are naked or half-naked. 

6. Try to be occupied with important things

Don't be idle, but let your mind be used for things such as prayer, reading, serving God, etc. A proverb says, “An idle mind is the devil's workshop.”

7. Break the devil's covenants that are holding you back

If your age allows you to get married, sometimes you can be tied down by ex-boyfriends or girlfriends. One day, when I was praying for a girl who was not engaged, the demons said through her mouth, “We don't want her to get married!” When the demons came out, her parents called me and gave me a testimony that within a week, their daughter was approached by three men asking for a date. It indicates that she had been disguised so that she would not be attractive as a girl.

JINSI YA KUSHINDA UPWEKE KABLA YA NDOA

1. Tambua Mungu anaguswa na hitaji hilo kuliko wewe

Adamu hakuona upweke wake. Mungu ndiye alisema hafurahii kuona Adamu akiwa peke yake. Hivyo akaahidi kumfanyia mwanamke wa kumkamilisha Huna sababu ya kujilaumu wala kulaumu mtu. Acha kuutafakari mwili bali mwangalie Mungu. Rum 13:14 “Bali mvaeni Bwana Yesu Kristo, wala msiuangalie mwili, hata kuwasha tamaa zake.”

2. Tambua kusudi la Mungu kwa wakati huu.

Mtume Paulo alisema Ni heri watu wakae kama yeye bila kuoa au kuolewa. Hii ina maana kwamba katika kuishi peke yako kuna kusudi pia la Mungu. Kuna mambo utaweza kuyafanya ukiwa peke yako na mengine ukiwa ndani ya ndoa.

3. Tofautisha tamaa ya mwili (sexual desire) na tamaa mbaya (lust)

Tamaa ya mwili ni ashiki ambayo inatokana na maumbile. Hii inaweza kutoshelezwa ndani ya ndoa. Tamaa mbaya ni roho mbaya inayomtesa mtu. Mtu mwenye tamaa mbaya hawezi kutulia kwenye ndoa yake hivyo anahitaji huduma ya kufunguliwa.

4. Jizungushie marafiki sahihi

Usitumie muda mwingi na watu ambao muda wao mwingi wanazungumzia masuala ya ngono. Waepuke watu ambao hawaamini kwamba mtu anaweza kufurahia maisha akiwa peke yake. Kumbuka kuna wengi walifunga ndoa na leo ni wajane au wagane.

5. Epuka mazingira hatarishi

Ukimkumbatia mtu wa jinsi tofauti na wewe lazima mwili utawaka tamaa. Mit 6:27 “Je! Mtu aweza kuweka moto kifuani pake, Na nguo zake zisiteketezwe?” Epuka mizaha na utani uliokithiri unapokuwa na watu wa jinsi tofauti. Jiwekee mipaka katika mahusiano. Pia epuka kuangalia picha za watu ambao wako uchi au nusu uchi.

6. Jitahidi kutingwa na mambo muhimu

Usiwe mtu ambaye huna kazi (idle) bali akili yako iwe inatumika kwa mambo ya msingi kv maombi, kusoma, kutumika nk. Kuna methali inasema, “akili isiyo na la kufanya ni karakana ya shetani.”

7. Vunja maagano ya shetani yanayokuzuia

Kama umri unaruhusu uoe au uolewe, wakati mwingine unaweza kufungwa na wachumba wa zamani. Siku moja nilipokuwa namuombea msichana ambaye hachumbiwi, mapepo yalisema kupitia kinywa chake, “Hatutaki aolewe!” Yalipotoka wazazi wake walinipigia simu na kunipa ushuhuda kwamba ndani ya wiki moja, binti yao amechumbiwa na wanaume watatu. Inadhihirisha kwamba alikuwa amevalishwa kinyago ili asiwe na mvuto kama msichana.

Dr. Lawi Mshana, Facilitator & Trainer, +255712924234, Tanzania